Guilty
The definition of guilt is: an experience that occurs when a person believes that they have violated a moral standard. My working definition is: the bad feeling a person has when they believe they should be doing something else. So many people seem to carry around guilt as a badge of honor. When they’re at work, they feel they should be at home, when they’re at home they feel they should devote more time to work. The operable word here is “should”. Whenever you use “should” you’re not taking responsibility for your own choices. Somehow you’re giving your power to… Continue reading
To be or not to be….
Whether you’re interviewing for a new job, or enjoying your current job, employers are interested that you’re doing something rather than being something. Many people I work with want to “be” the boss, “be” a manager or “be” the next [fill in the blank].
To keep on track you may consider some of these tips:
Tip 1: Why? Ask yourself why do you want to “be” the [fill in the blank]. What about the position appeals to you? It may be a position that helps you grow and challenges you. The position may use your strengths. If your answer is… Continue reading
Control
There are things in life you can control and a whole lot more you can’t. It’s always a mystery to me how people get so frustrated trying to control things that aren’t in their control and will never be. Lots of hours and energy could be redirected onto areas that they do have control over.
Here are some tips to think about.
Tip 1: Is it important to you? Put the situation into perspective, not everything has equal importance. Perhaps you want to be part of a project – is it because your colleague is on the project team or… Continue reading
Who’s in charge?
I was just working with a client who was having trouble moving projects along, meeting deadlines, last minute changes, you know the drill. Working with their team it became clear that there was some finger pointing going on.
They missed the first step in project management, no one had been assigned as the project leader. There were leaders in many aspects of the project, but no one assigned to own the whole process.
Here are a tip and responsibilities for project leaders to ensure your success.
Tip: Formal authority. When you’re assigned to head up a project everyone… Continue reading
Stagnant
Recently I got feedback during my workshop called “Advancing Women in Business”. The biggest fears/challenges were: being stagnant, not moving up, not learning new things, not knowing where I want to go or what I want to do, and not being given the opportunity to advance.
It’s easy to fall into these thoughts, especially when you’ve worked for the same employer for a long time. Here are some tips that might help if you’re saying any of those phrases.
Tip 1: Being stagnant – The good news is it is up to you – no one else has control… Continue reading
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